Yesterday, I took off from office early and met someone. She taught me, very important lesson of life. I will try to share her words with you as it is. I am ignoring initial conversation and reason for meeting with her.
She said, “Omer, I don’t know about you much, but I would like to share one important lesson of life. It is my personal experience as well. We live in a society and we need someone around us, no matter how strong we are. Relationship has two kinds, materialistic relationship (which has cause and/or for the time span) and spiritual relationship (which can be for beloved and/or Allah, it does not have time span and cause because this relationship made with spirit). Omer, try to develop spiritual relationships around yourself.”
I was failed to understand her meaning, at that time. And, I was looking reason of sitting in front of her, because she was really pretty girl. Normally, I don’t like to see pretty girls due to some personal theories. But, yesterday, I spend some time with her. Which was unanticipated thing for me then I started thought processing engine and activated surface to air missiles defense system, to figure out, what I am doing and why? And ready to engage any potential enemy threat. While activating red alert, I take notice of her last statement, “Omer, try to develop spiritual relationships around yourself.” I asked her, can you please tell me, what is that mean?
She said, “Omer, try to honest with people and especially with your beloved one. Try to take care of your beloved one and always help with open heart and give freedom to beloved one. No matter, how much strong you are.”
I interrupted her and asked her, “what if my beloved cares about own dreams only and ignore me completely?”
She smiled and said, “Omer, you might declared that, you fall in love, which is not true. You are still looking materialistic values in the relationship. Once you sacrifice your well in front of your beloved one then you will able to do declare yourself fall in love for yourself ONLY. Because, once you start sharing it with others then you will not able to go for higher values of love.”
I shocked and said, “Higher values of love? What is it? I have never heard anything like this ever in my life”
She is already very pretty girl. I have not met any pretty girl ever in my life. With broad smile, she looks gorgeous. She looks sad when she started, “Omer, let me explain you with my experience, might be it help you or not, I don’t know. Few years back, I love someone, he was not much handsome and not rich, but he always lives with personal rules and views of life (under the Islamic Laws as far as I understand). It always attracts me toward him. Initially, I tried to enter his circle first to consider me. After few working, I figured out the way to enter in castle. It has so many directions and halls inside the castle. Now, I have to figure out the way to spend some time with him to know correct direction and hall where I will found him. I have found the only distinctive person (him) in my life. I tried to start taking interest in his personal activities to move toward next level of relationship. At that time, I thought, I am fall in love. Which was not true, and you are also in the same stage. Because, I had my personal views of life, which I did not know at that time which I have to surrender and step in the level of love. I understand this thing, when he gets engaged with someone. Then, I understand philosophy of love or you can say point of love.”
Again, I interrupted her and asked her, “Do you mean, you did not understand him and find direction to the correct hall because you have own views? Come on, how you can say, love starts once you sacrifice your wishes in front of beloved.” (I was a bit ashamed, because it is her personal matter and scared to discuss these matters with her, because she is really pretty girl. I never discussed these kinds of matter with any girl due to some personal views.)
She was too sad, and started with sorrow sound, “Omer, yes, actually I fall in love after his engagement. I sacrificed my wish (to get him) for his good health, care and life. But never stop connection with him to avoid any kind of guild for him. He always helps me, whenever he can and his best at any position/point. Because he is very caring kind of person for the people entered in his castle.”
I said, “So, what are you looking now? Have you got married?”
She said, “I will try to get marry as soon as possible for him. And will never stop connection with him.”
Me, “will get marry for him? What you are saying? Who are you?”
She said, “Yes, Omer. My parents want me to get marry but I was not accepting anyone else, because of him. Now, I am going to get marry as per parent’s wish and for him. Omer, this is the only way, he will not able to know about my love for him, because it will give him so much inner pain, which is not good for his health and life. I will never forget him, and will try to make my happy relational life with my husband, children. Once he knows about my marriage before his marriage than will so much happy and I want to see his happy face once again.”
Me, “Once again? What is that mean?”
She, “I was too sad, and it was visible on my face, when he shared news about his engagement with me. He noticed that and become so much unset and facing so many problems because of me. Now, I have to do something for him and take happiness back in his life and his face”
Me, “Ok… Complex theory! Ooh my God, once again similar to complex milk balancing project. Anyhow, I will try to digest it later … tell me, what is higher values of love?”
She shocked and said, “Milk balancing project?”
Me with broad smile, “Yes, complex project of my life, no body understand its complexity not even client and my company.”
Me, “my company is not charging to client with respect to complexity and client treating this project as normal project. Anyhow, please tell me, what are high values of love?”
She, “Omer, did you love someone?”
Me, “Please, please, please, tell me, what are high values of love?”
She become normal and give broad smile again. She looks very pretty and I was thinking, “He did very wrong with her.” Suddenly, popup message arrived in my mind with text, “he did not able to feel her love because he has personal rules and views of life, as like me!”
Before she said anything, I asked one more thing, “Did he know, you fall in love?”
She become so much upset and answered me with very aggressive mood, “listen Omer, once you mold yourself like your beloved then you will be at higher values of love.”
Me, “Did he know, you fall in love?”
She replied with aggressive mood, “Omer, you can leave now.”
Me, “Please don’t mind, I was asking to know about his state.”
She replied again with aggressive mood, “Omer, I don’t know, you can leave now.”
This was the second time she was saying to me, “Leave now”. I stand up and leave her alone. I think, I made her too much sad and she doesn’t want to weep in front of me. While going toward car, I deactivated surface to air missile defense system. Enemy did not able to attack on me because my enemy knows, I have surface to air missile defense system to respond back on any kind of attack.
I never thought again about her complex theories of love. Thanks to Allah no body love me like her, otherwise it was really painful. I have to work on complex milk balancing project at office. I can do one complex project at one time.
Respectable reader, I know very well, you don’t like my post. Now, I have to end with prays for her, “Ya Allah! Please give her happy and healthy life for herself and her beloved one. Ameen!”